She avoided me for 2 days. She hid downstairs, only clean downstairs and never help me with my kids. FINE.
What I did? I asked her to look for the bag of bra. She pretended that she was so busy stacking the tupperware in the kitchen cabinet.
Me: NING, I am talking to you
Maid: ya *continued to look away*
Me: Look At Me when I am TALKING to you
Maid: *looked up and tears falling*
Me: I want you to look for a bag of bra. You understand? the bras are white colour and there's one which is grey. It also has a matching panty also grey. You understand?
Maid: *Showing the hokkien mee face (black face)* YES! (niamah so loud. Normally talk like fly flying around)
I went up and continued with my work. I can hear her banging the furnitures downstairs, looking for the bag wor. I just let her be. Then I went down and check on her, she was folding the clothes. I said "Ning, found the bag already?". She said "Find already. Don't have". I told her "I remember I have seen it. So look for it UNTIL YOU FIND IT. If you cannot find behind, then find in the store room". And then she slowly get up and looked for the bag. I went up again.
I came down she was outside pulling grass. I asked her again "Where is the bag?" She said "don't have" I said to her " downstairs don't have, then go to my working room and find in the cupboard." And I made myself a cup of Milo. She thought that I was going to drink my Milo downstairs so she hurried to my room and took out all the plastic bags. Then I came into my room and I continued with my work. Her face was as black as charcoal. Too bad I cannot take the pic and show you guys.
She took everything out, and then put everything back into the plastic bags. Then she used her legs to kick the plastic bags. Then I turned around and asked her "Don't have?" She said "don't have". Then I said "oh... sure have in this house. Look until you find it. By the way, I saw Jayden's Thomas cap just now. Where is it?" Wuah... i telyiu, you should see her face. Like.....Like... like charcoal. She took out all the plastic bags and looked for the caps. Who asked her to simply chuck the things into the plastic bags right?
So around 5.30pm both the kids got up from their nap. Justin was hungry so I went down and made him cereal. He was crying upstairs and she heard him crying and went up and console him (shuin hui yau liong sum la - ada hati perut also). She saw me coming up and she wanted to go down. Buddha also got fire I tellyiu. I finally pointed at her and said..
Maid: Looked away.
Me: LOOK AT ME when I AM TALKING TO U. What's wrong with you? Showing me your black face for 2 days? I know you are angry with me and You don't want to see my face. I am also angry with you. So now angry with me no need to clean upstairs is it? Only need to clean downstairs is it? The floor here no need to mop? no need to sweep? I have enough of you. Do wrong thing and some more can show me your black face? You like looking like this is it? wah.. somemore last night can answer me like that hor? You take what! fuiyoh..you're too much already you know. Somemore bang bang the things downstairs...fuiyoh so angry hor? I can tell you if you are angry with me, I am angry at more.
Maid: I.......am.....not....angry....I am angry (what talking?????????) because you angry at me and you smile smile like that.
Me: what??? I am angry with you and I smile smile like that? I am angry so I must show the face like your face is it? I am angry so how? CRY AH? Or do my face like yours? Black face? I cannot smile ah?
Fast forward....(i forgot what I said actually but i will tel you what i remember)
Me: If you think you want to continue with your attitude like this for another 1 and half year, sorry. I don't think I want to keep you. I told you, 2 years pass by VERY FAST. I don't care if you're really nice or not nice last time. I only ask you to be nice for only 2 years. Only when you work for me. After that I don't care already. You get me?
Me: Why do I need to have a maid like you? I am paying you to make me angry you know? For what? People hire maid to have easier life. I have a maid but I need to do things myself, take care of my kids myself. And also work at the same time. I get no rest. No sleep at night. For what?
Me: Can you say that you NEVER take my things recently without asking me?
Me: Ning. PLEASE. Don't ever think I am stupid. I might not say it out, but doesn't mean I don't know.
Me: You took my mirror and tweezer and put in sir's tool box in the store right?
Me: I am so sure you also took other things. Don't make me say it out.
Me: I don't want to mention about money. You get me?
Me: I know, you think that I am not using the thing, why you cannot take and use right?
Me: Let me tell you something. If the ppl is not using the thing, it doesn't mean that they don't want it or you can simply take it. I also put money on the table, why not you take it and say I am just leaving it there so you can take it?
Maid: *shake head and sob*
Me: I don't understand what is wrong with you. It's not the first time, and I am so SICK of telling this to you. I don't think you will ever change so I am not going to say it already. I just think you are sick. You know you are sick or not?
Maid: *nod* (niamah..what also nod)
me: You LIKE TO STEAL. THAT IS A SICKNESS. YOU UNDERSTAND? Wah samo last time I told you about my fren's maid stealing things and you teach me how to say LOOVIT samo. Now who is LOOVIT???? [Loovit=thief]
Me: You want to go back Cambodia is it?
Maid: No. I want to stay.
Me: If you think that me and sir is not treating you nice enough, then you go. I can waste my money and send you back. I told my boss already I want to quit my job and take care of my sons and also clean the house myself. I also told sir already. Both of them asked me to think what to do.
Maid: You and sir treat me nice but when you all go into the room....
ME: You don't need to talk to me now. You think properly what you want to say and tell me. You want to go back Cambodia, can. No problem. Pack your bags and we will send you. But remember, you're here for 6 months. If you go back now, you won't have a SINGLE cent cos your 6 months pay goes to your agency. And if you think you can go back Cambodia NOW? You can dream on. They will take your name and picture out again and show another person. And if they choose you, you need to stay another 2 years. And please don't ever think about waking up at 7 am or go to bed at 10pm every night. Don't even dream about watching tv, eating with your boss outside, and sitting here not doing anything. You don't know how lucky you are to have me and sir as your boss. I know you wake up only need to take care of the kids while I work. I never say anything although the house is like shit. People say my house is smelly and dirty did I scold you? You think if you work for other people and they say that to the boss what will happen to the maid? You know, other maid also take care of the kids, because of that they cannot clean the house. They have to wake up at 5.30 or 6 to finish everything before the boss wake up.You wanna try that? You think what you wanna say to me, what you want to do.
What happen after that?
She play with my kids as though nuthing happen. I was looking for the baby walker parts and she helped me to look for it. We had our dinner and we rushed out when she was eating her dinner cos we need to bring Jayden for his Hep A 2nd jab.
This morning she acted like as if nothing happened. Later when the kids are napping I am going to ask her what is her decision. And if she decided to stay, then she gotto take out her belongings, and we will list out all the things she has and I will also snap pictures of it (if I have the timelah) I don't want to have anymore problems in the future about what belongs to who. Before she goes back to Cambodia, I will take out the list and match it with what is with her at that time. But then I might find my bag of bra inside her bag. That one will another story....